• Mental Matters,  Parenting

    I’m The Parent I Wish I’d Had

    When I tell people I cut my mother out of my life they look at me like I’ve gone mad, they imagine some terrible crime has been committed or that she must be on the drink, or drugs, or both and that I must be protecting my children in some way. It’s been five years since I last saw her bar the odd glance in the supermarket and it might shock you if I tell you, she’s not an addict, she’s a millionaire, she’s educated and has never so much as smoked a cigarette let alone tried drugs. She owns several beautiful houses and in her youth dreamed of being…

  • Mental Matters,  Parenting

    My Toxic Parent

    Not what I expected to hear, age 38 – I thought I’d had a stable and loving upbringing, I thought my relationship with my parents was normal. But I was seeking help because of my anger issues, my anxiety, and my inability to cope with stress.  But I couldn’t have a toxic parent – she’d not beaten me, not starved me, and she was still around.  Still in my life, still living ten miles away, living a normal life. And then I started to dig deeper into my past. The comments about my weight started age 11, when I was podgy and my new school trousers wouldn’t fit.  A loving parent…