• Parenting

    Wouldn’t It Be Great If We All Stopped Judging Each Other?

    A few weeks ago at church I found my sister in law crying in the toilets. She was feeling alone, judged and overwhelmed. In our church community she is a working mum surrounded by past and present stay at home mums. As I was talking to her, reassuring her that she was not the crappy mum she felt she was at that time, I realised just how needlessly lonely parenting can be. The feelings she described to me – I also feel in my own parenting but for entirely different reasons. Being a parent of multiple children with additional needs leaves me feeling tired, judged, overwhelmed and ultimately alone. Then…

  • 5 WHYZ,  Parenting

    5 Reasons Why It’s Hard Being A Stay At Home Parent

    I became a stay at home mum four years ago and the amount of comments I’ve had about how easy my “job” is and how “lucky” I am has really got to me! I was struggling with giving up a career I was bloody good at and had spent ten years building up. Of course there are lots of positives too but it is hard at times. Here are my top 5 reasons why: 1 – No Pay Now obviously I get paid in the love of my adoring children but I had a good salary before and that immediately goes from your household. We knew it would be hard…

  • 5 WHYZ,  Parenting

    5 Reasons Why I’m A Stay At Home Mum

    Reason 1 My Mental Health Look, I know people fiddle the system ‘n’ all that-“I can’t work because of….” etc.  That’s not me-I don’t claim benefits, because to do so would be to have to prove to the “powers that be” that I’m “mentally unwell”-too mentally unwell to go and work a full time job. Right now, I don’t feel confident or comfortable enough to go and work a full time job.  That’s not something that should ever be judged in anyone who is brave enough to admit it. Reason 2 Childcare Costs I actually have sat and worked out how much childcare would cost me, in comparison to how much…

  • Life,  Mental Matters

    Perfect Doesn’t Exist

    As some of you may know, I’m 33. From around the age of ‘knee-high to a grasshopper’ I’ve been asked – “what do you want to be when you grow up?” I have dreamt of a hundred different lives from the usual – ballerina, teacher, princess – to the not so usual – travel journalist, interior decor designer, vampire. In fact, it’s an age old question that we ask our own children today and, I don’t know about you but I worry that my kids want to be YouTuber’s or gymnasts (having never taken a class in their life) and even a builder. I mean, it’s already ALL or NOTHING…