• Life

    Tidy House, Tidy Mind

    Christmas and New Year can be such a fun and magical time of the year: twinkling lights everywhere, new outfits, tasty food and lots of booze. What more could you ask for? Well, if you’re like me and kinda over the whole festive celebrations (I mean it’s warm enough to be March out there) then you’re probably feeling run down. The whole month of December had me so stressed out and that’s with me knowing that it wouldn’t be a perfect Christmas! There’s so much to do in December. Is it any wonder everybody feels a little tired come January 1st? You’ve got to try and budget for gifts as…

  • Life,  Mental Matters

    Quote Of The Month: “If you don’t ask, you don’t get.”

    If I had a pound for every time I heard this saying growing up – I’d actually have enough money to never want again. I can’t even reference this quote since it’s probably been around since the beginning of time! Although, the world wide web has narrowed it down to two suspects: Mahatma Ghandi and Stevie Wonder. I think I know who I’d put my money on! Anyway, why did I pick this quote? Because it’s relevant as fuck. Between 2016 and 2017 I suffered from a number of mental illnesses. It took me to a seriously dark place that I never hope to return to and every day I’m…

  • Mental Matters,  Speak Up

    There Is No Age Limit On Self Harm

    The first time my mum saw the angry red welts on my arms she walked away from me, her head held down and tears in her eyes. I guess she didn’t understand the whys and to be honest, neither did I. I don’t remember the first time I drew a blunt pair of scissors (my favoured instrument of pain) across my arms or legs. I knew that to make sure I didn’t need medical attention I’d have to use something that wouldn’t necessarily cause the skin to open and bleed but the pain and the raised red welts it left was enough of a satisfying outcome for me. I didn’t…

  • Mental Matters

    All The Times My Health Anxiety Has Killed Me

    I’ve spent the last 72 hours convinced that I am dying. So convinced in fact, that I’ve run through all the resulting scenarios in my head. The “I’m sorry Mrs Aslett, but you only have 3 months to live” diagnosis, the leaving our house for the last time moment, the insisting on keeping the kids away and sheltered during my final days talk with my husband. The panic, panic, panic. Because this week I have breast cancer. Two weeks ago its was fibromyalgia. For most of the Summer it was bowel cancer. Six months ago it was cervical cancer. I could go on and on. For years in fact. I can trace…

  • 5 WHYZ,  Mental Matters

    5 Reasons Why Anxiety and Overthinking Are Part Of My Life

    When I was at primary school a Mum of one of my friends dressed up as a fortune teller at a school fair and read palms.  I remember her telling me that I had a long worry line and I was obviously a big worrier.  It resonated with me but I don’t know if by telling me this she put ideas into my head or she was just making an observation about my behaviour at that age! 5 Things That Make Me Anxious: Travelling Social situations What people think Work Unexplainable reasons I have friends who can’t understand why I insist on being at airports or train stations well before…