• Life

    5 Reasons Why Being A Mature Student Sucks

    THE MORNING PANIC What the hell does a 33 year old wear to university? Now I know the answer SHOULD be ‘whatever the hell they want’ but being a mature student in a pretty mixed-age class with a penchant for 90/00s style bin bag baggy jeans and cartoon themed tops, it makes you start to question your life and fashion choices. Especially in the first week when everyone is still getting used to everyone else, it’s all a little judge-y. Blue hair shoved in the “mum bun”, make up free and glowing (read: sweaty and gross) and adorned with tattoos and piercings in a sea of the latest trends certainly…

  • Mental Matters,  Speak Up

    There Is No Age Limit On Self Harm

    The first time my mum saw the angry red welts on my arms she walked away from me, her head held down and tears in her eyes. I guess she didn’t understand the whys and to be honest, neither did I. I don’t remember the first time I drew a blunt pair of scissors (my favoured instrument of pain) across my arms or legs. I knew that to make sure I didn’t need medical attention I’d have to use something that wouldn’t necessarily cause the skin to open and bleed but the pain and the raised red welts it left was enough of a satisfying outcome for me. I didn’t…

  • Mental Matters

    All The Times My Health Anxiety Has Killed Me

    I’ve spent the last 72 hours convinced that I am dying. So convinced in fact, that I’ve run through all the resulting scenarios in my head. The “I’m sorry Mrs Aslett, but you only have 3 months to live” diagnosis, the leaving our house for the last time moment, the insisting on keeping the kids away and sheltered during my final days talk with my husband. The panic, panic, panic. Because this week I have breast cancer. Two weeks ago its was fibromyalgia. For most of the Summer it was bowel cancer. Six months ago it was cervical cancer. I could go on and on. For years in fact. I can trace…

  • Life,  Mental Matters

    Perfect Doesn’t Exist

    As some of you may know, I’m 33. From around the age of ‘knee-high to a grasshopper’ I’ve been asked – “what do you want to be when you grow up?” I have dreamt of a hundred different lives from the usual – ballerina, teacher, princess – to the not so usual – travel journalist, interior decor designer, vampire. In fact, it’s an age old question that we ask our own children today and, I don’t know about you but I worry that my kids want to be YouTuber’s or gymnasts (having never taken a class in their life) and even a builder. I mean, it’s already ALL or NOTHING…

  • Mental Matters

    When I Finally Admitted That I Needed Help

    *TRIGGER WARNING* this post contains potentially distressing material on subjects including but not exclusive to self harm and suicidal thoughts. I’m not really sure when I realised I was struggling with mental health challenges. As someone who self-harmed for quite some time throughout my teen years, I suppose I’d always assumed that I had some issues. But after the one and only occasion I tried to reach out for help at the age of 17 and was forcibly knocked back by a GP I had known practically my whole life – labeling me an “attention-seeker”. I got to feeling like he must be right and I buried everything. I got…

  • 5 WHYZ,  Mental Matters

    5 Reasons Why Anxiety and Overthinking Are Part Of My Life

    When I was at primary school a Mum of one of my friends dressed up as a fortune teller at a school fair and read palms.  I remember her telling me that I had a long worry line and I was obviously a big worrier.  It resonated with me but I don’t know if by telling me this she put ideas into my head or she was just making an observation about my behaviour at that age! 5 Things That Make Me Anxious: Travelling Social situations What people think Work Unexplainable reasons I have friends who can’t understand why I insist on being at airports or train stations well before…