• 5 WHYZ,  Parenting

    5 Reasons Why I Won’t Home Educate My Second Child

    I love home education. I think it’s wonderful. I think that it is absolutely the best way for most young children. Formal education in this country starts way too soon. We expect our tiny four year olds to learn phonics, to have an interest in reading and writing and to have the ability to concentrate when actually, most of them would rather be picking their noses and kicking the shit out of each other. I home educated my first child until he was nine years old when he decided to go to school for year 4. Obviously, there is a much longer story behind that including a divorce (me, not…

  • 5 WHYZ,  Parenting

    5 Reasons Why It’s Hard Being A Stay At Home Parent

    I became a stay at home mum four years ago and the amount of comments I’ve had about how easy my “job” is and how “lucky” I am has really got to me! I was struggling with giving up a career I was bloody good at and had spent ten years building up. Of course there are lots of positives too but it is hard at times. Here are my top 5 reasons why: 1 – No Pay Now obviously I get paid in the love of my adoring children but I had a good salary before and that immediately goes from your household. We knew it would be hard…

  • 5 WHYZ,  Parenting

    5 Reasons Why The Younger Sibling Gets The Better Deal

    Being the eldest child, I have long suspected that I got the rough deal. I was after all, the ‘first’ – the practice baby, the “we don’t know what the fuck we’re doing baby” , if you will. My younger sibling was always somehow freer. Free of being told to act her age, free from the responsibility of setting the example. Free to run wild from all that parental micro managing that happens with the first. I always had to wait for everything. I wasn’t allowed to have my ears pierced until I was 10 years old, I wasn’t allowed further than the shops or I always had to phone/text when…

  • 5 WHYZ,  Parenting

    5 Reasons Why You Shouldn’t Do Exclusive Baby Led Weaning

    Before I start my five points, I feel compelled to firstly state that when it comes to baby weaning it should be each to their own.  When it comes to YOUR baby it is YOUR choice, simple.  Hopefully your choice will be an informed one, or a general mix of trial and error.  I feel in no way qualified to give advice, so please don’t take this post as a ‘do ‘ or ‘don’t’ it is simply taken from my own experience, and something I wish I could go back and tell myself at the beginning of this journey. Here are my 5 reasons why you shouldn’t do exclusive BLW:…

  • Mental Matters,  Parenting

    I’m The Parent I Wish I’d Had

    When I tell people I cut my mother out of my life they look at me like I’ve gone mad, they imagine some terrible crime has been committed or that she must be on the drink, or drugs, or both and that I must be protecting my children in some way. It’s been five years since I last saw her bar the odd glance in the supermarket and it might shock you if I tell you, she’s not an addict, she’s a millionaire, she’s educated and has never so much as smoked a cigarette let alone tried drugs. She owns several beautiful houses and in her youth dreamed of being…

  • 5 WHYZ,  Life,  Parenting

    5 Reasons Why The Class WhatsApp Group Is The Gateway To Hell

    So, your child is starting reception. You want them to make friends. You want to make friends with the other parents, maybe find a kindred sprit to text about your shit husbands and drink cheap wine on play dates with. When a class parents suggests setting up a Whatsapp group for you all to stay in stay in the school loop and arrange play dates, and help each other out with drops offs and pick ups you think it’s a marvelous idea. You’ve not been down the pub since 1864 and you are desperate to make new friends to get out the fucking house – I get it. I get…

  • 5 WHYZ,  Mental Matters,  Parenting

    5 Reasons Why I Know My Child Has Autism

      When we told our friends and family that we believe Olive has autism, the responses were varied. We faced questions such as, “Are you sure?” or, “But she seems fine though.” (what even is fine?) But those that know us best, they trusted that we wouldn’t just throw ourselves head first into the diagnosis process (which can take YEARS) without being absolutely sure of it ourselves. 1. Her emotional response does not match the situation Olive really struggles with her emotions. There are times when she just bursts into tears for what is seemingly the slightest thing. There was a moment when I didn’t ask the takeaway for curry…

  • 5 WHYZ,  Parenting

    5 Reasons Why I’m A Stay At Home Mum

    Reason 1 My Mental Health Look, I know people fiddle the system ‘n’ all that-“I can’t work because of….” etc.  That’s not me-I don’t claim benefits, because to do so would be to have to prove to the “powers that be” that I’m “mentally unwell”-too mentally unwell to go and work a full time job. Right now, I don’t feel confident or comfortable enough to go and work a full time job.  That’s not something that should ever be judged in anyone who is brave enough to admit it. Reason 2 Childcare Costs I actually have sat and worked out how much childcare would cost me, in comparison to how much…

  • 5 WHYZ,  Parenting

    5 Reasons Why It’s OK To Not Like Your Children

    As parents we’ve all been there, where our kids have driven us mad all day with constant demands, questions and tantrums.  We feel that although we love them to bits, there is a tiny bit of us that doesn’t like the person we brought into this world. Well, I’m here to tell you that it’s OK to not like your child from time to time!  It doesn’t make you a terrible parent it makes you an honest parent.  I’m sure there are times where you don’t much like your significant other too but I bet you don’t feel as guilty of question whether this is normal or not.  It is,…

  • 5 WHYZ,  Parenting

    5 Reasons Why My Children Hate Me Today

    We all know kids are fickle creatures, one moment they’re singing five currant buns at full volume, laughing away, and the next, they crumble, a pile of anger on the floor, arms flailing, legs kicking. Repeating those words and phrases you say under your breath and hope they don’t pick up…… and that’s just my tween…. don’t even get me started on the younger three! Some days are worse than others, some days I’m pretty sure my children legitimately hate me. Why do I think that? Mainly because they tell me at full volume multiple times between cereal and their bedtime story. It’s exhausting of course it’s all forgotten the…