• 5 WHYZ,  Parenting

    5 Reasons Why I Wish People Were More Honest About Traumatic Births

    So let’s all be honest, before giving birth we all thought it would be some kind of mountain climb that was a bit shit and a bit sore but the view was worth it. Unfortunately though, for a lot of women’s this is not the case. Not only do we still feel that a C-section is failure but we also find it taboo to talk about what really happens when things don’t go to plan. So we’ve all met that person who gloats lovingly about their drug free water birth, they barely pushed, it wasn’t all that bad, their labour was only a few hours blah blah blah. Enough. So…

  • Parenting

    I’m Taking My Kid Out Of School For A Free Influencer Holiday And IDGAF

    I feel I ought to pre-face this post with a disclaimer that I do not actually consider myself to be an “influencer” or to have any great “influence” on anyone. I can barely influence my 5 year old to get dressed for school, let alone impress upon a stranger what make-up they should buy or where they should go on holiday. In the bizarre World of Social Media Influencers/ Bloggers and the like, I would chart myself somewhere around a spotty Year 9 hanging around outside the Sixth Form Common Room waiting to tell Regina George that I love her outfit. Cool and influential i is not. Mardy, amateur and…

  • Editors Picks,  Feminism,  Parenting

    Our Daughter’s Daughters Will Adore Us

    “Our daughter’s daughters will adore us – and they’ll sing in grateful chorus – well done!” A rather iconic scene from a rather iconic movie. Mary Poppins is a movie from my childhood that stands out for many reasons. Notably the amazing soundtrack, the wishful thinking of snapping your fingers and the room tidying itself, being able to jump into paintings on the pavements and join the wonderful world of the colourful characters. But that scene of Mrs Bank’s marching around her hallway, proudly singing and sporting the ‘Votes For Women’ sashes. That scene has always stuck with me. From childhood to adulthood. And when it came to my time…

  • 5 WHYZ,  Editors Picks,  Parenting

    5 Reasons Why I Ignore Mums At School

    The best thing about a collective blog is you can write about things you wouldn’t normally put on your own. This, is one of them. Now Before I start here’s a disclaimer, I have some awesome mummy friends, some I’ve even met through the school and I’m all about sista hood!! And supporting other mothers etc etc but there are some things I don’t like and I’m not afraid to share them…… here….. (far too terrified to share them on my own platform) So here we go! 5 reasons why I rarely talk to other Mum’s in the playground Reason 1 I’m scared that if I talk to you once,…

  • Mental Matters,  Parenting

    Being A Stay At Home Mum Is Making Me Depressed

    I’m writing this post on the back of a relatively sleepless week. We have two children (aged 5 & 1) and currently they are trying to end me via sleep deprivation. One wont go to bed and dicks about endlessly and the other will wake up intermittently throughout the night and vice a versa. So, I’m definitely at my worst as I write this, definitely on a low. Lack of sleep of course makes everything worse and I know that in a day or a week, things wont feel quite so bleak and I will be able to pull myself together a bit. But its been like this for months…

  • Editors Picks,  Parenting

    Have Parenting Blogs Had Their Day?

    I know how that sounds, especially from an actual parenting blogger! But there is method behind the madness so just hear me out… Instagram has been growing in popularity for years, with over an eighth of the world’s population using the app. In 2016, 95 million posts were uploaded a day and the chances are that, that statistic has increased largely by now. There’s also been an 80% increase, year on year, for videos whether that’s Stories, on your feed or their new feature, IGTV. So why am I telling you this? As a blogger, I research the platforms I use to promote my work and while Facebook gets me…

  • 5 WHYZ,  Mental Matters,  Parenting

    Five Reasons Why We Should Build Resilience In Our Children

    It is a sad fact that mental health problems affect about 1 in 10 children, including depression and anxiety. Which is often a direct response to what is happening in their lives.  What is even more alarming is 70% of children have not had appropriate interventions.   The emotional well-being of children is just as paramount as their physical health.  Good mental health will help children build skills to develop their resilience; this will help them to cope with whatever life throws at them, making them happy and healthy adults. So what does this term resilience mean? There have been various definitions of resilience, the one I like the most is…

  • Life,  Parenting

    Shut It, Chaka

    For as long as I can remember, I have been a ‘burn the candle at both ends’ kind of gal. Work hard, party harder in my teens and 20s. Work hard, mother hard in my 30s. For most of my adult life, I have had more than one job at any one time. I have run and contributed to online publications. I have done additional qualifications whilst working. To date, my qualifications include numerous GCSEs and A Levels, a BA (HONS) in journalism, a management NVQ, a qualification in residential lettings, an OU diploma in creative writing. In January, I start a BA & Higher Apprenticeship in Business Leadership and…

  • Parenting

    Wouldn’t It Be Great If We All Stopped Judging Each Other?

    A few weeks ago at church I found my sister in law crying in the toilets. She was feeling alone, judged and overwhelmed. In our church community she is a working mum surrounded by past and present stay at home mums. As I was talking to her, reassuring her that she was not the crappy mum she felt she was at that time, I realised just how needlessly lonely parenting can be. The feelings she described to me – I also feel in my own parenting but for entirely different reasons. Being a parent of multiple children with additional needs leaves me feeling tired, judged, overwhelmed and ultimately alone. Then…

  • 5 WHYZ,  Parenting

    5 Ways to Make Potty Training Easier on Yourself

    I’ve just potty trained my third child, a boy, and I was honestly expecting it to be a nightmare. He showed no interest in using the toilet or wearing pants and would absolutely freak out when it was mentioned. On a whim at the start of September I decided to just go for it and was pleasantly surprised. Here are a few tips that worked for me and might make it a bit easier for you. 1 – Preparation Before you even think about starting training make sure you have everything you need. Potty, pants, puppy pads, waterproof bed sheets. Let your wee one help to pick their potty and…